MITT, Myself

Silence Within

dwell-in-possibilityLast night, I came back from a weekend workshop with men where I found out for myself that silence is not necessarily bad if it’s filled with energy that moves other people into passion or positive action.  For me, too often, I used silence to avoid, shutdown when all that was needed was acceptance and being open to listening and open possibilities.

Why around men? Because too often, I spent too much time wanting to prove my manhood or that I can hang when rather than be vulnerable and be open. So this weekend with 28 brothers, I learned that it is okay to be myself no matter how it looks like.  In a group, I learned about myself and possibilities.

A journey of self-discovery in the midst of men who supported me to discover areas in my life that I can sculpt to be better and be more significant. A powerful weekend that taught me  I am never alone, and there is always possibility.

So the Silence Within Dwells with possibility and for that I am grateful!

Legal

New Business Owners: Legal Reasons #4

Starting-a-New-BusinessLook I get it. Most people do not think they need lawyers until they really need one, and that is the wrong attitude to have especially in the realm of business. It amazes me to see how many begin new businesses, hire employees, and then ask an attorney about varying issues. California is particularly unforgiving on labor and employee issues.

It is much cheaper to consult with an attorney when you are ready to begin rather than in the middle because time and money are wasted when documents and consents need to redone or be compliant. Moreover, you do not need to have everything seen by an attorney, but there are some fundamentals such as Insurance, Documents and Payroll that every business should be aware of.

Legal consultation needs to be part of the budget and it needn’t be expensive.  Good entrepreneurs know that time and vision are necessary to be successful, yet new ones do not realize the risks they can reduce or absolve if they just speak to an attorney.

At the end of the day, it will always be cheaper to spend money now than defending against a claim. That is not a cost you want to have to bear.

Brownness

Dealing with Employee Misconduct (Legal Reasons #3)

As an employer, I have seen varying ranges of things employees do, but the most frustrating is employee theft. I understand how dispiriting it is to discover someone put in a position of trust violates that trust. Yet it is important to follow certain standards before accusing and firing them. I also realize there is an instinct to garnish wages, involve the authorities or threaten to, but it is important to have protocols in place.  Moreover, there are limited things you can do as an employer, but if done right can let other employees know this type of behavior is taken very seriously.

There are fundamental things that need to be kept in mind

  1. Gather documents. It’s important to preserve all possible evidence when conducting an investigation. If an employee is suspected of stealing, IT should be engaged to copy the employee’s work center, whether it’s a register or a computer, and download and preserve e-mails. Copies should be made of all documents related to an employee’s job, including time cards, punch records, data access records of when employees come and go, and video surveillance of the premises.
  2. Contact legal counsel. Before taking any action regarding disciplinary action, suspension or termination, consult legal counsel. There are certain considerations regarding recovery of the goods or monies that were stolen, which may be jeopardized if the employee is terminated. In addition, even if the facts support termination, the overly-broad communication of those facts or the manner in which the termination is conducted can create the risk of liability for discrimination, invasion of privacy, defamation, or intentional torts.
  3. Relax and be careful about what is said. Once an employer has received confirmation that an employee is guilty of theft and the employer is ready to confront the employee with that information, the employer should be careful of how or what is said during this meeting. The employer should not approach the suspected employee while still angry or emotional, which could create a volatile or explosive situation at the work place. The suspected employee should be approached calmly to discuss his or her employer’s concerns. Employers should be careful not to refer to the employee as a “thief.” This type of reference can lead to a defamation lawsuit.
  4. Do not deduct amounts from the employee’s paycheck. California law imposes very strict limits on the circumstances under which an employer is permitted to deduct amounts from an employee’s paycheck. Even if an employer suspects an employee of stealing, seek legal advice before deducting the value of stolen items or cash from the employee’s paycheck.
  5. Recovering stolen property

    The most common legal question presented by workplace theft is “Can the money or items be recovered?” Many times the answer is yes, if the employer acts properly to investigate, document evidence and involve legal counsel early, and the loss is significant. If counsel is engaged early on in the investigation, they can seek court orders to freeze an employee’s assets and have property returned.

Diet, Myself

Lifestyle Bloat

yo-yo-dietingIt does not take much for things to change. One minute you are on a kick ass trip of working out three times a week and the next you are scarfing down a whole Pizza with a 6 pack of beer. Yup, that’s been me. Here’s the thing. Each time I lose the weight and then gain it back, it gets harder to lose. I know the key terms by heart. Lifestyle change, food preparation, protein intake, etc. Yet again and again I fall off the wagon.

I have the usual excuses: laziness, emotional eating, hungry, “treating myself”, etc, but what’s really going on is me deciding it’s just too hard. I allow my mind to rationalize for me that a few weeks of cheating isn’t a big deal. That what’s the harm. Yet deep inside, there is an insecurity that I will never have that 6 pack that I desired all my life or that I will never be able to do a pull up, or that I am slow and will never good enough so why bother.

Most times, I can squelch that voice, but there are times it beats me. what I have learnt that it’s true victory will be when I just don’t get back up (cue Rocky IV theme music). So I am back it, harder than ever, twice a day for 5 days and down some pounds. More than anything else, I not only feel light on my body, but in my mind.

And that’s what matters.

Brownness

Legal Reason #2

images (1)So I get that most do not like the idea of using a lawyer for minor things, but it amazes me that many consider being involved in an auto accident or a first time DUI as a minor thing. Listen, I get it. We all see the ads, and the promises of getting rich quick or low-cost DUIs, but the reality is you need a professional by your side to deal with insurance companies or when fighting a DUI because both are institutions that do not care about the individual. One focuses on profits, and the other on technicalities which can have far-reaching consequences.

Regardless of how minor you think it is, check with a professional whether it be a doctor or a lawyer. It really is not worth finding out the hard way that there are things that could prevent or reduce consequences. That is not a lesson you want to learn while on a hospital bed or at the courthouse. The choice is yours.

Make it an informed one.

 

Cancer

Milestones. #CancerFree

8d442e198bf127c5bb42e2c49a8a37a2Five years is a long time. Of not knowing if things will change or stay the same. To get the dreaded call after the annual visit. I cannot imagine the fear she felt after each visit. To always wondering if the dreaded C word was going to come back in her life. Unguarded moments where you wonder what you had done to be in this situation, but not realizing that God had  a bigger plan for her.

I don’t think I could have the courage she exhibited during the treatment. I watched helplessly as she battled chemo and radiation, but I always knew she was a strong one. A fighter. A rebel. She would not go down without a fight. She had great mentors, one who recently passed who taught her to live each day with joy and to never ever give up. To go on your own terms even when it felt like they were forced on to you. But now on February 29th she went from Cancer Patient to just patient, and for that I am grateful. I get to see her beautiful face and know that she is not to be messed with.

But now she is Free. And for that I will always be thankful.