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Thought for May 6,2011

Sanjay Sabarwal
Reginald’s New Diet


Reginald was terribly overweight, so his doctor placed him on a strict diet. "I want you to eat regularly for two days, then skip a day, and repeat this procedure for two weeks. The next time I see you, you’ll have lost at least five pounds," his doctor assured him.

When Reginald returned he shocked his doctor by having lost almost twenty pounds. "Why, that’s amazing," the doctor said, greatly impressed. "You certainly must have followed my instructions."

 
Reginald nodded, "I’ll tell you what though, I thought I was going to drop dead on the third day."

 
"Why, from hunger?" asked his doctor.

"No, from all that skipping.

Lesson: A different perspective can yield better results. Therefore, learn to be open to all possibilities. Do not short-change potential results with narrow, limited thinki

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Why You Struggle With Changing Habits and How to Change This

Sanjay Sabarwal
Very interesting and informative video
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I have a question for you: how often do you find yourself in a situation where: 1) you know you should change, 2) you even want to change, and yet 3) you don’t change? If you’re like the majority of us, I’m going to guess that your answer is: “Quite often, damn it!” Join the group, take a seat and pay attention, because the solution to your predicament is close, very close.
It’s Not about Want or Willpower
The standard view in our society is that if a person truly wants to change and to get somewhere, they won’t just try, they’ll make it happen. And if they don’t change in a reeeeally long period of time, then they either don’t want it badly enough or they lack willpower. Like Yoda says: “Do or not do. There is no try”. Right? Well, NO. It turns out that the little fella is full of bullshit. Not changing in the direction you chose is not a problem of want or willpower. You are not lazy, stupid or unmotivated for finding it quite hard to quit smoking, lose that extra weight, spend less time online or change your communication style <http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/top-10-lessons-learned-from-coaching-100-people/> . You’re only human, and there is no need to feel guilty. It turns out that the habitual behaviors of human beings are very much influenced by personal, social and situational factors. Thus, the real key to change is not to try harder, it is to improve your change strategy.
How to Actually Change
This being said, I invite you to watch the 53 min. video below for a powerful lesson on the topic. It’s a recent Google Talk where Joseph Grenny shares the real science <http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/the-law-of-attraction-vs-science>  of changing habits. I came across it yesterday and I found it mind-blowingly smart. Seriously, this talk could be one of the best pieces of personal development information you’ll ever get. So if you skip it, I’ll personally kick your ass. Image courtesy of Krikit <http://www.flickr.com/photos/krikit/>
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    Employment Litigation Position Open at FedEx

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    Food For Thought

    Sanjay Sabarwal
    How Rich Are We?


    One day a father and his rich family took his son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose to show him how poor people can be. They spent a day and a night on the farm of a very poor family. When they got back from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" "Very good Dad!" "Did you see how poor people can be?" the father asked. "Yeah!" "And what did you learn?"

    The son answered, "I saw that we have a dog at home, and they have four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of the garden; they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lamps in the garden; they have the stars. Our patio reaches to the front yard; they have a whole horizon." When the little boy was finished, his father was speechless. His son added, "Thanks, Dad, for showing me how ‘poor’ we are!"

    Isn’t it true that it all depends on the way you look at things? If you have love, friends, family, health, good humor and a positive attitude towards life — you’ve got everything! You can’t buy any of these things. You may have all the material possessions you can imagine, provisions for the future, etc.; but if you are poor of spirit, you have nothing!

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    11 Food For Thoughts For May 4, 2011

    Sanjay Sabarwal
    The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary.  – Vidal Sassoon

    The elevator to success is out of order. You’ll have to use the stairs… one step at a time. -Joe Girard

    To think is easy. To act is hard. But the hardest thing in the world is to act in accordance with your thinking. – Goethe

    We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing. – George Bernard Shaw

    The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for. -Maureen Dowd

    All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure. – Mark Twain

    The key to success is not through achievement, but through enthusiasm.- Malcolm Forbes

    I cannot afford to waste my time making money – Louis Agassiz

    If at first you don’t succeed, then skydiving definitely isn’t for you. – Unknown

    If you think you are too small to be effective, you have never been in the dark with a mosquito. – Unknown

    The difference between genius and stupidity is; genius has its limits. – Albert Einstein

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    No Longer Alone: A Blog Post

    Sanjay Sabarwal
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    Sitting in the quietness of the day, I now know that I am not alone anymore.  Prior days, weeks, months that were spent alone are now shared with someone I love deeply.  It’s an intense feeling, shimmering over my thoughts briefly, sprinkling my days with a deep longing for the one gone temporarily. I no longer have an emptiness in my soul or the need to fill myself with temporary distractions just so I feel as if I am alive.  Looking around my friends, I see some who are alone, who are going through the same struggle as I did when no one could fill the void in their soul.  Sure, we all have false starts and even perhaps some slight promise of one or two who may be the one, but deep in our hearts we already know that is not true.  As someone with several failed relationships, I am well aware that more times than not, we breathe life and personalities into people just because on the surface they seem so right with us.  In a way, we try to force upon ourselves and the person, who they SHOULD be rather who they ARE.

    Yet, I also know the hard truth that this battle is theirs alone, and the only thing we can do is to love them as our own and be there when they ask for us.  You cannot force yourself upon anyone, no matter how great your intentions.  That’s a hard lesson for me, as my instinct is to always jump in to help.  But just like with success, a friendship or a relationship  can only move forward when we accept who we are and stop trying to change the one we want them to.

    Of course, nothing I am saying is new or even perhaps original, just that it’s funny how all of us at one time or another go through the same experience, but really just fail to realize that there is always someone who has gone through exactly the same thing.  My point?  Look around you, and you will always find the support, love and kindness you need.  You just have to believe that you are NOT alone…

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