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A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on the end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots was perfectly made and never leaked. The other pot had a crack in it and by the time the water bearer reached his master's house it had leaked much of it's water and was only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his master's house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do. After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. "I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you." "Why?" asked the bearer. "What are you ashamed of?" "I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master's house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don't get full value from your efforts," the pot said. The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, "As we return to the master's house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path." Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some. But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load, and so again the pot apologized to the bearer for its failure. The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of your path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you've watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master's table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house." Each of us has our own unique flaws. We're all cracked pots. Don't be afraid of your flaws. Acknowledge them, and you too can be the cause of beauty. Know that in our weakness we find our strength. |
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Food For Thought For Thursday, January 19th, 2012
When the Thrill Is Gone
Sometimes we have a love-hate relationship with our jobs. This feeling may cause you to think that you need to change jobs when what you really need to change is your relationship with your job. How can you do that? By working on it. Here are some suggestions to help you:
- What about your job still excites you? Is it giving presentations? Is it solving staff difficulties? Is it training and teaching? Is it the way you feel when you finish a project, streamline a process? Find at least one thing about your job that still makes you feel good.
- Focus on yourself. Improve what you do. Why continue to do your job the same old way? Be creative and make things easier for yourself.
- Enrich the quality of your life on the job. What about your coworkers? With which ones could you cultivate or deepen a friendship? Don’t know? Take time to find out, and then work on these relationships. They add depth and positive feelings to your work life.
- Don’t take criticism personally. Look at it as feedback, another person’s perception. See it as another person’s analysis of your work, not something carved in stone about you personally.
- Make an analysis of your own. Write down all the areas that cause stress on the job. Some of them you may be able to change; some of them you may not be able to change. But at least you’ll know concretely and exactly what these stressors are instead of perceiving one big, all-consuming bundle of stress.
- Notice where you’re disorganized. Make a to-do list, have a place for everything and everything in its place, prioritize tasks and problems, organize your office and your work flow.
- Don’t let yourself stagnate. Increase your skills and competencies on the job and off the job. Take a class you have an interest in; join a group of some kind. As you grow, you may find you like your job much better, or you may find something else you’d rather do, someplace else you’d rather work. Either way, you’ll feel better if you’re growing. There’s definitely excitement in that.
- Don’t be work obsessed. Spend part of your time in activities you enjoy that are not work related. Fun with family and friends should not be a secondary part of your life. If they are, you’re living an unbalanced life. No wonder you feel dissatisfied.
- Find your bliss. The secret of happiness is not in getting the things you like but in liking the things you get. Another side to this is that you are more likely to get things you like when you close down your self-pity party and change what you can and build on what you enjoy. Live your life according to what you want. And accept that other people’s wants sometimes conflict with yours. That doesn’t make you trapped. That makes you tap your own creativity and live your life to the fullest.
Food For Thought For Wednesday, January 18th, 2012
Food For Thought For Tuesday, January 17th, 2012
If You Think
If you think you are beaten, you are. If you think you dare not, you don't! If you want to win, but think you can't, It's almost a cinch you won't. If you think you'll lose, you're lost; For out in the world we find Success begins with a fellow's will; It's all in the state of the mind. Life's battles don't always go To the stronger and faster man, But sooner or later the man who wins Is the man who thinks he can.
Walter D. Wintle
Food For Thought for January 13th, 2012
A Short Course in Human Relations
The six most important words: I admit that I was wrong. The five most important words: You did a great job. The four most important words: What do you think? The three most important words: Could you please. . . The two most important words: Thank you. The most important word: We. The least important word: I.
Anonymous
Bollywood Flashback-LA’s FIRST Old School Bollywood Party THIS SUNDAY 1.15.2012
From: Sandeep Kumar <info@sandeepkumar.com>
Date: January 12, 2012 10:21:39 AM PST
To: sanjay@zibabeauty.com
Subject: Bollywood Flashback-LA's FIRST Old School Bollywood Party THIS SUNDAY 1.15.2012
